The Courage Exposure Method™
Going from "Too Scary" to "I'm Proud I Did That"
You know what you need to do.
Post on Instagram. Go to that event. Start that conversation. Put yourself out there.
But every time you try, your body screams no.
So you force yourself. You white-knuckle through it. You prove to yourself that it's terrible.
And next time, it's even harder.
Here's the truth: Exposure therapy works - but only when your nervous system is ready.
Most advice tells you to "just do it." Jump into the deep end. Face your fears head-on.
But for socially anxious overthinkers, that approach can re-traumatize you.
That's why I created The Courage Exposure Method™ - a way to take action that builds confidence instead of reinforcing fear.
What The Courage Exposure Method™ Does
The Courage Exposure Method™ is my proprietary process for taking embodied action that actually builds confidence.
It's the Embodied Action pillar of The Confidence Formula™.
What it does:
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Helps you take aligned action your nervous system is actually ready for
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Builds courage gradually without overwhelming you
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Proves safety to your body through strategic, manageable steps
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Expands your comfort zone in a way that feels empowering, not traumatizing
What you experience:
You start with things that are manageable. You build momentum. And before you know it, the things you used to avoid because they were "too scary" - you're doing them with pride and a buzz of excitement.
Not because you forced yourself. Because you proved to your nervous system that you're safe.
Why Traditional Exposure Fails
Traditional exposure therapy works for many people.
But for those who feel deeply unsafe, it can be too much, too fast.
When you force yourself into situations your nervous system isn't ready for:
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Your body floods with cortisol
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You dissociate or freeze
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You prove to yourself that the fear was justified
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You reinforce the anxiety loop
The Courage Exposure Method™ is different.
It doesn't push you into the deep end. It starts where your nervous system actually is - and builds from there.
You don't force courage. You build it.
What "Embodied" Means
Embodied action means showing up as your most confident, authentic self - without the fear and limiting beliefs holding you back.
It's not:
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Faking confidence
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Forcing yourself through fear
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Pretending to be someone you're not
It is:
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Taking action from a regulated, grounded state
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Showing up authentically without the distorted beliefs
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Proving to your nervous system that you're safe
When you take embodied action, you're not just "getting through it." You're teaching your brain that you're capable.
And over time, what used to feel like a 10/10 fear becomes a 3/10. And then it becomes automatic.
What You'll Experience
When you learn The Courage Exposure Method™, you'll experience:
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Momentum - You start with small, manageable steps and build from there
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Pride - You celebrate every courageous action, no matter how small
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Excitement - What used to feel terrifying starts to feel like a buzz of possibility
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Self-trust - You know you can handle challenges because you've proven it to yourself
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Freedom - You stop avoiding the things you actually want to do
This method is taught in:
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Module 4 of Return to Inner Confidence - where you confront your fears using the Courage Exposure Roadmap™
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1:1 Confidence Coaching
The Bottom Line
You can't force courage. You build it.
The Courage Exposure Method™ gives you a roadmap for taking action that actually builds confidence - instead of re-traumatizing your nervous system.
You start with what's manageable. You build momentum. And before you know it, the things you used to avoid because they were "too scary" - you're doing them with pride and a buzz of excitement.
